The Juicy Woman

Tap On Resistance to Release Negativity and Get Moving Again

Resistance is fueled by feelings of hopelessness and negativity. When you are experiencing those feelings of wanting to give up and go stick your head in the sand, it's a natural inclination that we all have as humans. We all want to be safe. Please don't be quite so quick to beat up on yourself. Girl, you don't deserve that nasty kind of treatment. Don't you think you merit more compassion toward yourself?  Instead of kicking yourself in the can, allow yourself to just become curious and be willing to explore and dig a bit further to understand what is making you feel so badly and fear change?

I'd like to invite you to do that in an environment where you can feel safe and at ease with other women also dealing with their fears and resistance. Please join my next free call on Monday, October 1 at 2:00 p.m. We'll be handling those feelings of resistance.

Have you been struggling with emotional eating or are you frustrated by the lack of guidelines and rules, maybe you're having a devil of a time learning the mechanics of listening to your body. Are you feeling tempted to give up and do whatever makes you feel safe? I know the feeling. I can relate to th frustration. It makes you feel so scared inside. You want to give up, don't you?

Hope for Abuse Survivors Struggling with Constant Hunger

Dieting and stress go hand in hand. I don’t think that anyone would disagree with that. If you’re a woman who’s ever been on a diet, you know that if you’re on a weight loss program, then you feel pressured to do it perfectly. Don’t you?

There’s just no room for mistakes, right?  That’s what I thought too.

I started my first diet when I was 11 years old. In 1973, my Pediatrician, Dr. Zucker put me on a 1000 calorie a day diet. He gave me a list of foods to avoid that was probably as long as my arm. It crushed my little soul having to think of never being able to eat those foods again.

Like so many other women, the concept of good and bad foods has followed me around for years. I was taught that when I eat the foods that are on the ‘good’ list, then I’m entitled to feel virtuous and proud of my accomplishments. On the other hand, when I eat the foods from the ‘bad’ list, I tend to feel awful about myself, almost as though I’m a thief or a criminal.

In an attempt to cradle my aching heart after years of being abused by my alcoholic stepfather and many other nameless, faceless men as a kid, I ate in secret, hiding my guilty shame and evil deeds from others.

When I moved in with my Dad and my step mother, Rosie, I’d steal money from my dad’s money clip when he wasn’t looking and stick it in my jacket pocket so that I could buy candy and pizza after school the next day. I took babysitting jobs so that I could raid the cabinets and refrigerators of the women who entrusted me with their children. Yessirre. I would do almost anything for food. I was what you'd call a food floozie.

Obstacles Are What You Focus On When You Lose Sight of Your Goals

"Obstacles are what you focus on when you lose sight of your goals." Listen with your heart to this video and please disregard its poor lighting. I'm working on improving but wanted to share this big Aha that I had while I listened to a speech last week. This is a big improvement over the first jiggly video. It can only continue to get better.

All kidding aside. Let me know what you think about switching your goals for weight loss. As you may know, this blog is a companion to my online free Juicy Woman Yahoo group. If you're a gal, in need of support, wanting to love yourself more, accept your body now and lose weight without ever, ever, ever dieting again, then come see what I can do for you! Come take my hand and let's take the journey together.

Buddywork: The Best Way To Uplevel Your Success

Buddy work and accountability is an invaluable asset to any personal growth program.

Welcome to The Juicy Woman Blog. This blog for non-dieting women is a companion to the free Yahoo! Juicy Woman message board and the free weekly Juicy Woman Fabulous, Fit and Free Call)

In all of my programs, I encourage women to get a buddy from within the group and work with that support partner often. In my own experience, I’ve found that this is absolutely invaluable to the success of any personal development program.

The reason for this is because it enables the two people to practice new techniques and to handle overwhelming emotions and fears consistently in a safe and non judgmental space of mutual support. In this way, your issues don't get a chance to 'boil over' and overinflate since you are both working on them consistently.

The Bonios Plan: Beyond Dieting

When I first decided that I would become an Intuitive Eater, I was thrilled beyond words at the prospect of being able to eat whatever I wanted, whenever I wanted it.

With the only guideline being to wait until I got hungry, I had carte blanche to eat all the time, or so I thought.

As a Certified Energy Coach, I had a whole bag of tricks that I had used in the past and taught other women to use successfully to eliminate cravings, but I decided to set that aside to test out this amazing process. So there I was, just a gal, face to face alone with food for what seemed like the first time. The difference was that I was actually giving myself permission to eat whatever I wanted to whenever I was hungry and naturally I would stop when I was full, LOL!

Carol Look, EFT Master Uses Tapping To Bust Down Resistance to Losing Weight

Over the past few weeks, I’ve noticed a trend. Many of my clients in my Losing Weight without Dieting Program have been experiencing resistance. After several weeks of great success, changed habits, more mindful eating, and paying attention to their hunger, several of them found that it had become very difficult to get motivated, feel excited about losing weight and truly relax into the process, consequently they fell back into patterns of overeating.

I recognized that I was having the same struggles myself. When I decided to follow my own program privately alongside them, I noticed that I, too was slowly losing weight, food was losing its allure more than ever, I was craving salads like mad and overall I was becoming much more confident and self accepting of my own body. I was enjoying the skin that I was in! That's when I created the video that you'll see here on this site. I began the process of Losing Weight Without Dieting with my group at 199 pounds and over a short couple of weeks, I had lost 3 pounds.

Right after doing the video in mid May, I noticed that I was getting really cranky with my husband, Angel, working in my home office around the clock, losing sleep, craving junk food again and eating way beyond the point of feeling satisfied. Feeling sexy was out of the question. After weighing myself  recently, feeling fat I discovered that I had regained those 3 pounds back again and was at 199 once more. I knew beyond a shadow of a doubt that I was struggling with some internal resistance but needed to explore it further. I decided that it would be great to address the groups' resistance as well as mine by making that the focus of one of my
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Thank You for Inspiring Me To Create This Online Journal

As you may be able to tell from the previous post, I'm no expert at video. Truth be told, this is my first digitized video ever. My daughter,Cara shot the video a few weeks ago. It may not be the highest quality picture but the feelings conveyed are crystal clear. I'm about to make a really big deal out of thanking everyone for helping me with this effort. This endeavor is deeply meaningful to me for many reasons. I'll share more over the course of the journalling. For now, I'd like to express my gratitude.

A big thanks to my dad for the wonderful gift of the great camcorder and to the fellows at Sony for sticking with me through the afternoon while editing the video. A huge and sincere thanks and a ton of gratitude goes to a colleague of mine, Lou Bortone, the Online Video Guy. With Lou's help, he taught me how to get my first video up on Youtube in just a few minutes. Thank you, Lou.

Embrace Your Right To Bare Arms: Love the Skin You're In!

Hey girl! Be a Juicy Woman. Love the skin you're in! Celebrate your juicy self by embracing your right to bear your bare arms with confidence.

Be bold and enjoy your shapely curves. It is only by learning to love and accept yourself now that you can move forward. Wouldn't you like to get off the diet roller coaster, eat the foods you love and lose weight naturally? Sign up for my free article and learn how to lose weight naturally without pills, powders, gadgets or gizmos and best of all without ever, ever, ever, ever having to go on another diet again!

Zap Your Negative Self Talk, Powerboost Confidence and Begin To Enjoy Your Right To Bear Arms

Yesterday I was shopping at Lane Bryant’s at the Palisades Mall in West Nyack, New York. As I was about to go into the fitting room with an armload of clothes, a lovely woman stopped to compliment me on the blouse that I was wearing. It was a blue and green mosaic design short sleeved peasant blouse that I wear off the shoulder.

I noticed as I looked at her eyes, there was a mournful expression in them. I wondered why. Then I smiled at her and said, you know this same blouse would look incredible on you. I pointed to the rack and told her, It’s still available. What do you think of getting it?  I watched her as her the once lovely smile that she had faded and the corners of her mouth turned downward into a sullen frown. Then she said, “Oh no, my arms are too fat. That type of blouse is not for me.” I told her that belief was probably coming from the little screaming meanies critics that have been perched on her shoulder, perhaps for years holding her back from wearing those types of blouses or doing other things that she wanted to do in life.

Hummers Vs. Beckoners: If Foods Could Speak What Would They Say?

Earlier this evening I had a few too many of my favorite dark chocolate raspberry jellies from Trader Joe’s as I sat on the sofa and watched one of my favorite shows, TLC's What Not To Wear. I notice that I don’t feel as light and buoyant as I’d like to right now, instead I feel full and sluggish, maybe even desirous of taking a nap. Yawn. Doesn’t feel so good.

I know that there is a vast difference when I eat something and it hums in my body. Those jellies are definitely not humming now.