The Juicy Woman

The Word, "No" is a Full Sentence

In 2006, I did one of my Juicy Woman seminars for a local group of women. Mary is a mature woman with a family. She shared with our group that throughout her life she was taught to care for others, set aside her needs and make certain that everyone around her was happy. She admitted that deep down, in her heart, she considered her needs as less important than anyone else’s.

Her life centered on what other people thought about her. She did her best to get everybody to like her so she always went out of her way to please everyone. Mary never felt comfortable saying, “No.” She reasoned that she didn't want to let anyone down or hurt their feelings.

Sadly she attracted people in her life who took advantage of her kindness and had little respect for her. Without consciously being aware of it, she realized that she had allowed herself to be treated like a doormat. 

One day she went to the doctor for a routine exam and she was told that she had cancer. The doctor explained to her about the deleterious effects of stress on the body and told her that she had to make some choices. She had to change her lifestyle and make herself a priority.

That's when she realized that if she were to survive, she had to weed out the things in her life that were toxic. She started by saying, "No."

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How do you handle it when you overeat?

Most of us are disappointed and angry with ourselves when we overeat. We assume our tendency to binge means that we have no self control. We often privately think of ourselves as less than and without realizing it we allow our inner critic to run roughshod over us. That's when the beatings begin. Beating up on yourself is a lot like complaining. Nothing is getting done, because a part of you has already shut down and stopped listening. You’ve become immune to your babble and self critical ways. What you need to get out of the self abusive loop that caused you to overeat in the first place is some good old fashioned TLC.

Here’s a quickie excerpt from my upcoming book, “Lovin’ the Skin You’re In: The Juicy Woman’s Guide to Making Peace with Food and Friends with Your Body.”

How to Baby Yourself On Those ‘Fat’ Days

A fat day is when you feel fat everywhere, even in your bones. On these days, the best thing to do is be as loving and gentle with yourself as you can. Recognize that nowhere on any list of feelings does the word, “fat” appear. Fat is not an emotion. It has nothing to do with the fat on your body and it has more to do with what’s going on in your life way beyond your relationship to food. Be curious and willing to look at whatever is going on now in your life and see if you can find how that might be making you feel angry, sad, rejected, disappointed, depressed, frustrated, confused or any other emotion that might perhaps put your body on overload. 

By identifying the real culprit and source of your bloated emotions, it will reduce the stress level that you feel. Dr. Nancy Bonus, the creator of the Beyond Dieting Program says, learn to love yourself now as you are. Realize that permanent change requires a climate of love and nurturing, not self loathing and disgust.

Here are several tips to help you get over the hump of those very challenging fat days: